LOVE, LIGHT & BOUNDARIES

Two truths can exist at the same time.

This is a message I have received from the Universe A LOT lately!

You can be on a spiritual path, you can be love and light… but you can also think that people are dick heads! One does not cancel out the other. In this example it simply reminds you that on the path to enlightenment, you are still a human!

You can be an empathetic badass and still have boundaries. In fact I would suggest that if you are an empathetic badass on a spiritual journey to learn about yourself, you NEED boundaries!

When we don’t have boundaries, or we have weak ones, we leak into people pleasing behaviour. I read this quote on the gram today-

People pleasing is self-abandonment dressed up as empathy.

Yikes! Sobering, but very true.

Recently, I received an email from an old member who suggested that people did not like me because I upheld my terms and conditions. I may be a heart-led business, but I am still a business! T&C’s protect my ability to earn money, but they also protect the consumer.

I stumbled here for a minute though, because the ‘not liking’ me bit hit a nerve. Should loosen my terms and conditions so that I am liked… The answer of course is no, but it was interesting that this very notion of two truths not being able to exist at the same time got questioned.

Can I be a heart-led business owner AND have boundaries around my T&Cs?

Yes, the answer is yes.

Why?

Because ‘Just this once’ turns into “But you did it last time’ VERY quickly and nearly EVERYONE does it, even when they say that they won’t.

Because terms and conditions are useless if they are not upheld.

Because I don’t need you to like me…

My T&C’s do not cancel out my heart-led intentions, they support it. They keep me safe, and in doing that, you the consumer can be safe as well.

So the next time you get a boundary questioned, I invite you to notice what other truth it is tickling- because there will be one! One truth does not cancel out the other truth. You just have to be prepared to hold both. And when the other person wants you to drop your boundary, ask if that action will take you closer to, or further away from who you set out to be by setting the boundary in the first place. In that enquiry you will find your answer.

Its Sthtira AND Sukha (effort AND ease), not OR…